How to get a selfish cat to show you respect?

bottom line, cats demand respect. you should continue ignoring him. try this, It worked with mine. feed them on his regular schedule then one day don't, when he comes to you for food (realizing you are the king of the pride :P) he will learn more and more that he is dependent on you and that you are the leader. that attitude might be a challenge for dominance. Is he fixed? that could play a big part as well.